Dating while discerning priesthood
" I thought that that was a most articulate way of summing up the human condition of actively Catholic girls in their early twenties. Thus, we Catholic girls should hear "I'm discerning a vocation to the priesthood" and translate it into "I'm just not that into you." And at this point, we should drop the discerner like a hot potato. When I was 21 and my boyfriend began to explore a call to the Scalabrinians, I said, "You go on ahead, honey" and fired off an inquiry to the Daughters of Saint Paul. Nobody should waste their youth dreaming of men who have no interest in them. However, it is not so great if your discernment becomes a soap opera starring you. Actually, I wouldn't take any "discerner" seriously who hadn't told his mother. If there is a great dramatic secret that everyone hints around, I go nuts until I find out what it is. Of course, the real test is if you tell your mother.
But stories of valor aside, I’m always entertained by how simply these war veterans viewed dating and marriage.I don’t think it is “using” someone if you date him or her and then later decide you’re not called to marry him or her, because all that this means is that you’re not called to that person—not that you won’t be called to marriage with someone else.Discernment is the process of discovery through which an individual discovers how God calls him or her to love and serve him through prayer, reflection, and discussion.Lord, my God and my loving Father, you have made me to know you, to love you, to serve you, and thereby to find and to fulfill my deepest longings. In meditating upon and contemplating its mysteries, we can grow closer to Mary, our mother, intercessor and model of every vocation.
I know that you are in all things, and that every path can lead me to you. We can delve deeper into the heart of the Trinity, which is the final end of all devotions.
No one has given me an answer about that- would you be able to clarify? My theology teacher put it this way: No one is called to “marriage” in the abstract. In this way the call to marriage is similar to the call to religious life.